Understanding the misunderstanding - difficult to gauge the line, isn't it? Yes, we are human beings and we have the right to change our interpretation of understanding to misunderstanding.

A few days back, I saw a video based on this subject - how we as humans are judging sentences based on our mood, indirectly saying how we read and understand statements based on our mood and then interpret it in various ways. In that video, the same sentence was said to different people and everyone reacted to it differently.

The sentence was simple - "What makes you happy?"

People who were in love said that when you are in love, everything makes you happy. While some people were offended with the question and said, "How you can ask what makes me happy?" And some other people said, "Nothing is there to be happy or can make me happy." Some people just avoided giving an answer.

So what's common between them? Their mood. If we are happy, we find happiness in everything and if we are sad, even though our surroundings may be positive, we still find the saddest thing to worry about and if we are angry, we will feel the anger. 

So how our understanding can be misunderstood by others is very normal. My way of explanation may be interpreted in the wrong manner by someone or most of the time, the interpretation of a joke or some line may have a different meaning to different people.

It's very difficult for one person to judge how others may react to a particular sentence. But all these things can be minimized. I can't say we can eliminate the mood by easing out the environment, speaking the right mind or maybe judging or understanding the body language of people. But yes, if you can analyze the other person before speaking with them for at least a fraction of second, you may come out of the conversation as a winner by not getting misunderstood by them.

Another thing is the bond or rapport or connect. If you both share a good connect with each other, even if a misunderstanding happens, it's short-lived.

So the best conversationalists would say - try to clear the cloud before it gets darkened and bursts.

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