It all started a year ago when I met this guy name Anil.

We met through a matrimony site as we were both "eligible" according to our parents. As soon as we got acquainted, there was a strange spark between us. I don't know how to describe it but yes, we clicked. And we sure as hell fell for each other. Ek dusre ko jaante the sirf 4 din se par aisa lagta tha ki hamara saalon ka rishta tha. 

And see, I'm an introvert, so my ideal partner was always someone who can make me comfortable no matter what the circumstances were. I didn't want to be on my own in a fast-paced life, with so many shifting faces and places.  As we met there was a strange spark between us & we just clicked & fell for each other, we used to understand each other like we know each other from many years.bieng an introvert I always wanted my partner who can make me comfortable with everything around & who talks more & kind of a weirdo as I am raised in a family where we were taught to be disciplined, no back answering even if you were right, there was no fun when I am with my family, all this somewhere has made me introvert & quite person.But my parents always allowed me to go out with friends but there was a time constraint as well as go to school & official trips. They always said if you like any guy let us know we will take it ahead.their words have me strength that they will always agree with my choice so I informed them about Anil, never knew thier reaction would be very different as they used to portray. Anil was from other community but he has converted to our community a few years back but his parents are not & yes Anil & his parents stayed in rented house though they have thier own house it's kind of not sufficient to them now so they started staying in rented house.
I informed my Parents about Anil & told them everything, first I made him meet my mom that meeting went well later on my mom's pressure even dad agreed to meet him but the conservation between them was why he didnt buy a big house, my dad said to him you should have your own house. Your parents & relatives are from other community how will you manage. He always had problem he being converted & his parents being from other community & yes their rented house. After meeting him he spoke to me, saying he is a nice guy but doesn't own an house,they stay in rented house how will you manage & also he earns less then you. & his parents & relatives are from other community they will come & go. I told him he is a nice guy, very honest & I like him. They discussed this with my grandparents i.e. my dad parents & his sister & brother. Being orthodox mindset that they have they said that they will meet him for name sake. His sister said that see if you get a nice guy for her. Days went... After few months they decided to meet Anil, my grandpa, dad, uncle they all went to meet him rather went to reject him. After meeting him they called me as I was traveling back home from office, once I reached home they all were sitting as if there was some round table conference. I directly went to kitchen & asked mom what happened she didn't replied. I went out & asked them how was the meeting so my uncle started we met him but don't feel he is a correct match for you. You are post graduate & he is graduate. He earns less then you, it will affect in the long run. He is fromother community as well. I said he is nice person, honest guy & we share good understanding but all my words went into deaf ears. They had already made up thier minds that he is not perfect for me. As it was very late they left for the day. Next my grandparents came to my house to wash my brain with all the emotional thing that they can but my parents didn't even speak a single word. Afterwards they denied for that relation & asked me to delete his number & not to meet him again.they left but my parents behaved very normal as if nothing has happened, they never asked me what I was going through, my question to my parents is why did they promised me to let them know if I like someone if they cannot do anything about it & listen to thier family.
All these happened because of the so called torch bearers of the family so called uncle aunties who dont know what their children do in their life but are ever ready to give suggestions to other child.where my parents went wrong is by not trusting my decision, they even know that I have medical issue. They understood what my grandparents, uncle & aunty meant but could not understand me. They are the one who know what kind person I am then why the hell they have listen to all the people around who don't even know about me & never checked on what I was doing before this. Suddenly they got up & started behaving like my well wisher. In this 21st century where everyone is getting married to their wish from where will they find a so called perfect guy for me who earns more then me, have his own house, car etc. They have put restriction on me from going anywhere out even if I go they call me several time to check if I am with him.
I request all parents if they cannot stand with thier children in such times please do not promise them anything for name sake. Your child will go through emotional roller coaster because of you. & yes I am 30 yrs old & my parents are still searching for a perfect guy.

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