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A Letter To My Baby Girl, Know That Your Mom Is Never Against You…

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I always remember my mother saying, ” You will understand this only after you become a mother yourself,” and I always laughed it off, saying, “Don’t worry, I will be a cool mom unlike you." As a teenager, I have been a lot of trouble for my mother. However, as time went on, I had to leave home in order to make life for myself.

I always had immense love for my mom and enormous respect for my dad, as he worked so hard to give us the best life. However, moving out of the house made me realise the importance of my mom. I always thought Dad was the one who earned, so he was the most important person in the house. But I was so wrong! In actuality, Mom continued to quietly run the show. 

After being alone for the last seven years in another city, everything I did, from cooking to spending money, always left me wondering what mom would say to me. Even now, when I fall sick, my thirty-year-old brain thinks of Mom taking care of me. The distance made me realise her importance.

Something that made me respect my mom even more, is your arrival. Every bit of me has changed since the day you arrived. I always knew you were within me in the form of love, and I knew one day you would be there right in front of me. That day onwards, I shall not seek love from anywhere else, as you would be my ultimate, my whole, and my soul.

It's been three months since you’ve arrived, and my world has changed upside down. My thought process, the way I look at life, and my dreams are all inclusive of you. The relationship that we share is unconditional. I have named you "Sia.” The one who is victorious.

Since the time I first saw you, you have been all I can think of. Your eyes are full of love. Your tiny little hands, that cute smile, those tiny feet. I fall in love even more every passing day with this little soul.

Every time you cry and search for me, how you calm down in my arms, it makes me realise my self-worth. I know for sure that there is one person who needs me, irrespective of all my flaws, who loves me and will not judge me if I falter.

Every time I look at you, I fall in love even more. I also imagine my mom falling in love with me when I was a tiny baby. But I also remember how, over the years, I have done injustice to her love. The most precious thing to a woman is her child. Every moment with you, my baby, reminds me of how I took my mom's baby away from her by being so rude to her, by taking her for granted, by thinking she did not know anything, and by fooling her in my teens. My heart breaks into pieces, thinking you would do the same to me.

But one thing is for sure: I know that during all the times I took Mom for granted and have been rude, somewhere in my heart I always felt the guilt but acted cool. Now, when I look back, I realise that during the times I thought my mom was against me, she was actually protecting me.

The amount of sacrifices she has made, which I thought was her duty, kills me for not giving her the due credit.

But you know what? My mom always stood by me no matter what and raised me into a strong woman, and I plan to do the same. Raise a tornado that is fierce and, at the same time, has her head in its place.

The reason for writing this is that tomorrow, when you grow up and think that your mom does not know anything, is a constant obstacle in your plans, or is a free advisor and you don’t feel like listening to her, read this!

No mom wants to trouble her baby. All she wants to do is protect her baby from the world. As for her, you are still her tiny tot, even though you are a thirty-year-old mother of a three-month-old child.

I've realised a little too late that my mother has been there for me from the day I was born, providing the unconditional love I've been seeking for all these years. 

Tomorrow, when you need strength and feel let down by this world, Always know I will be standing behind you silently to hold you and push you back to fight like your Nani does.

My darling daughter, you have given me the purpose of my life, and for that I will always love you. Each choice I make from now on will have an impact on you, which will drive me to be the best version of myself. 

I wish you loads of strength, happiness, and wings to fly high. Be a woman who spreads happiness and love also, at the same time, does not tolerate injustice or hatred. Be kind to people; go the extra mile for those who care for you; but don’t forget to put in place the people who pull you down. Be a fighter, my love, make your own path, and stand up for yourself.

And every time you are tired and seek a resting place, my arms will always be open for you.

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