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I Don't Want My Daughter To Be Extraordinary As Long As She Can Just Be Human

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*For representational purpose only.

Just like every Mum, I too have a lot to say to my daughter. But before I say anything, I wish to share the first promise that I made to myself on seeing her: “I will always be her Mom”. I don’t wish for her to be over-educated, immensely rich, an obedient daughter or even a doting wife, nope. I simply wish to guide her to use her knowledge wisely by judging things and not the feelings of people, to guide her not to follow the opposite path which most of us follow blindly, which is not right. I wish her to be at a place where one considers the position of the another human first and then acts accordingly before even considering him as another human, an entity different from oneself.

I wish to tell her to learn to protect herself from the harsh realities of the world, just the way a body protects its soul from the outside world, with an alert mind which secures the sensitive emotions of the heart.

As a mother, I would want to tell my daughter to always do Seva of the living beings and also to remember to always care for herself and her dear ones too. When she grows up and desires to marry the Man of her life and be with him as his partner through the graceful bond of marriage, I wish to make her aware of the other mother’s feelings too, the feelings of the one who would be sharing, rather blessing her with her own life’s happiness, her world, her Son.

I wish for my daughter to be sensitive to that mother’s feelings who would then wish her to take care of her love as she herself did throughout her life.

I want to tell her that if it isn’t easy for me to gift her through marriage, it would be much more difficult for another mother to share her son with her who has been brought up with all her affection and care, with whom she will always have a connection of the invisible umbilical cord. As a mother, I wish that when she enters that phase of her life where she becomes a Mother, she does realize that Mom is just not a term explaining a spiritual relation accomplished through giving birth by physical self and that its power is unexplained. I wish that she understands that she has been blessed to nurture and enhance her other pious self, her baby. I wish to teach her to value life and see its beauty in every aspect. I don’t wish a perfect one for her; I rather wish that she lives her life as beautifully as a melodious tune so that when she looks up, she has nice tunes to follow. I want to tell her never to forget feeling alive as nothing in this life can steal the worth of her birth from her.

There can never be an end to a mother’s wishes of sharing with her daughter all that she has and desires for her child but I hope that this piece would tell her what her Mum would wish to share with her in this life.

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