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My In-Laws Shame Me For Not Wanting To Have A Child… Am I Wrong?

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I’m tired of being the daughter-in-law.

I find myself weary of inquiries from various in-laws, my mother-in-law, grandma-in-law and aunt-in-law. They all keep asking me the same question, “when are you having a baby?” Why don't you ask your son if you dare?
You wish to try and shame me as if I am doing something wrong by not being pregnant! Your daughter is the perfect princess, a fine woman, yet she lives next door to you, and you feed her and her kids. 

Your son-in-law is perfect, because he is not your son, and he does what his wife wishes for him. 

Yet your son is a loser for listening to me; he's whipped, and if he dresses better, it's because of me. I've been spending his money; if he is busy, it's my fault; I've taken him away from you; if he's tired, it's my fault; if he's fat, it's my fault; if he's skinny, it's my fault. 
I’m exhausted from being the daughter-in-law and all the questions I have to answer about my personal life and family... 

If I visit my family, you will bombard me with questions and ask me with satisfaction: Do your parents live alone? You want my parents to be away from me and their children, but your children must be around you always. 
I'm really tired of being the daughter-in-law and for my life to be judged... 

My hair is too short, my body is too thin or fat, and I'm not dressed up enough or too dressed up... I work too much or I should get a job, but your daughter is perfect. 

I’m truly tired of being the daughter-in-law. Your double standards, your nosey questions...
Keep in mind, that while your daughter may be free from in-law obligations, your granddaughter is not yet married.

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