"Oh! Is your daughter doing PhD?" one among the ladies asked the other.
"Yeah" the lady replied.
"Have you started to search for matches for your daughter?" another lady asked her.
"No. We are waiting for her to finish her studies," the lady replied.
"Get her married soon. What if your daughter's education qualification exceeds the guy's qualification? Or what if she earns more than the guy? And what if your girl doesn't get proposals?" the ladies started imposing their opinions on her.
"If that's the case, I'll talk to my husband soon," the lady replied and went ahead to talk to her husband without giving it a second thought.
Why can't a girl have a better qualification than a guy? Why can't a girl's pay cheque be more than the man's? Is it a norm that a wife should be lesser than her husband?
If yes, then why are girls being educated?
This is something that needs to be dealt with the men of our society. Why can't a man accept a woman who is better than him? Why is it that a woman should always be inferior to men?
When a woman can accept wholeheartedly her man's success, why can't a man? Is this how a man protects his ego? Is this the way a man shows his dominance over his woman? Isn't marriage an emotional bonding of two souls?
To all the girls who want to be successful,
Never give your ear to those people who look down upon you. Never care about those who portray that marriage is everything, for they don't know the happiness of receiving your first salary. Never listen to those ladies who tell you to stop going for work as they don't know what it feels like to be independent and they don't know how it is to be content in life.
Never pay heed to all those aunties who ask you to get married just because you have turned 25 or 30 because they don't know what it is to love one's own company. Only when you love yourself, you will be able to love someone else.
To all those stereotyped people, never tear the wings of the girl, only to belittle her in front of a man. Never stop a girl from achieving her dreams. Marriage alone is not everything in a girl's life. We too like men who have their aims and ambitions. We are not asking for your help or support to achieve success, instead we are asking to respect the life we have chosen.
We may miss a match now but at the end of it all, we will get the best better half because not all men are same. For girls like us, settling in life is not about getting married. Settling in life is standing on our own feet, earning our own bread.
And we don't intend to say that we'll remain single forever. We are trying to say that we will get married on the day we feel we're ready and not on the day we turn 22 or 23.
We may even marry a man who earns lesser than us because we are not looking for economic dependence, we are looking for emotional dependence.