I Don't Want To Get Married Because I'm Ready, I Want To Get Married For Freedom

Anonymous Anonymous in Single Women Bad Women on 2 April, 2017

'Marriage is a beautiful institution' is a phrase that we hear often. Then why do we youngsters run away from this responsibility? We are afraid of the responsibility or some other reason, the answer is still vague.

Like every girl even I wish to get married, not because I am ready for taking responsibilities but I want some freedom so that I can start taking my own decisions.

I want to be independent to pursue my dreams in the world as I want. I was an introvert but I love adventures and I like to observe things. My bad luck is that I can't do all this because I am a girl. In India, us girls are still not allowed to go out and explore the world alone. My father never allowed me to travel the world as I am a girl. He never allowed me to go out with friends, to watch movies, to walk around the lake.

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Being a girl in college was even more difficult because whenever my friends went out of the city on college trips, I could not. Every time I had to sit at home and study because I was not allowed to go for trips. The biggest fear he always had was that I will get pregnant for some reason.

Yes it happens in this world that girls are raped or they are easily taken to bed but does that mean every girl is the same? My brother who is 6 years younger than me is given all the freedom to do anything. The kind of freedom that I don't have even at the age of 25. He was allowed to go on school trips, out of the city, for dinner, for parties.

Looking at him I also crave for parties or movies, even if not at night time but the morning ones but no I wasn't allowed. My parents would go with each other, my brother would go with his friends, it was me who was always left behind with no choice. It always made me cringe but I didn't have much of an option.

Every time I asked for permission to go out, the answer was, "Wait for your marriage and then go with your husband wherever you want."
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Now I just really want to get married, not because I am ready but because I want freedom so that I can enjoy my life by exploring the things around and understand the real meaning of life.

Life is not only about bad things that went wrong, it's also about the good things that you should wait to see.
Editor's Note:

I don't know if this is the right reason why one should get married. Share this story with your opinion so it reaches the author sooner than later.