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When I Told His Parents About His Abuse, They Said I Complain A Lot

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Five years back I met a guy who I fell madly in love with. After dating each other for a while we realized we should get married. I did not think about a “secure future” or other such things before getting married.

He had done his masters and was well educated but didn’t have a job at that time. I thought, it doesn’t matter as long as he is by my side, we will face everything together.

I lied to my parents about his job situation just so that they agree to our marriage. His father takes care of this entire family. Just a few days into getting married, I realized I had ended up in hell. He slapped me just because I wanted to meet my friends. When I got upset, he convinced me that it will never happen again.

Every time there was an argument between us, he slapped me. I thought maybe it’s the joblessness that’s making him act up, so I found a job for him but he never understood anything that I did for him.

When I complained about the physical and verbal abuse, his parents told me that I crib a lot and women who do that deserve to be slapped. It is considered “normal” in their family for a husband to beat his wife.

Meanwhile, I met a kindhearted gentleman who really respects women. However, I am scared to take that further because I don’t want to get hurt again. I don’t know why a divorced woman is looked down upon in this society?

The cover image is a work of art by Arjun Kamath Photography.

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