I Kept Telling Him That I Was Not Comfortable Doing Such Things, But He Never Listened

Anonymous Anonymous in Single Women Bad Women on 16 September, 2017

He was my brother’s friend and we shared a good rapport with each other. I used to share everything with him and I felt good when I did so.

I felt so secure that I secretly even wished to have a husband like him. We used to chat for hours together and we chatted almost all day.

We started taking things seriously. I don’t even know how it started. I knew it was wrong but I somehow convinced myself that what we shared was ‘love.’ He used to give me a lot of attention and love. But things changed, as expected.

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He hardly returned my texts and calls on time now.

We had our usual arguments and all he always said was, “It’s the work. I am not able to focus on my personal stuff.” I tried to understand his situation and made sure that I was not pressurizing him.

Even if he called in the middle of the night, I made myself available to him and was eager to speak with him.

I cancelled my plans so that we could spend enough time together. I stopped fighting with him for not spending enough time with me as I thought that it was just a bad phase.

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Little did I know that I was giving away my life too. I had cancelled so many plans with my friends and family that I hardly had any connection with them anymore. I missed so many birthdays and anniversaries so that I could spend time with this guy.

But he spent an enormous amount of time with his friends and family and didn’t even bother to think about me. I would wait for hours together just to get his reply. I used to forgive him very easily. But then things worsened.

One day, he forced me to send a nude picture of mine to him.

We lived in different cities and were not physically intimate as yet. I would politely deny his request until one day he started pestering me so much that I stared believing that I was in an emotionally abusive relationship.

He said he would breakup with me if I didn’t send him any nude pictures of mine. I kept telling him that I was not comfortable doing such things. But he never listened. I think I was so much in love with him that I did not want to let him go so I kept postponing the inevitable. But I couldn’t do it any longer.

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I decided to stand up for myself and told him that I would not be sending him any of my nudes and he was free to leave me. To my surprise, he left.

I suffered from depression for around one month. My dad was so worried that he took me to a doctor. Slowly after undergoing therapy and with my dad’s support, I regained myself. I started spending more time with my friends and family. I realized how much I had been missing out on.

          I was really happy that my relationship with him was over.

I shifted to another city and I am now with another guy. I have never felt so sure about someone before. I am doing great, both professionally and personally thanks to the support of my family and friends.

Author's Note:

So guys, all I am saying is never compromise on your dignity and self respect for someone who is using you for their needs. Stand up for yourself no matter what. It’s a beautiful world out there. Never rush and don’t worry about letting go of things.

Editor's Note:

Share this story because like this confident young girl, we should never allow anyone to push us beyond a certain limit. It is more important that we remain true to ourselves first.