Marriage is a huge task for girls especially when they want to explore their life and push their boundaries instead of being bound by any relationship.
Unlike other girls, getting married was not my ultimate dream.
I wanted to fly high and live life on my own terms without any restrictions.I was working in an engineering college and was also pursuing my post graduation. One afternoon, I was sitting in the college lab with my best friend with whom I shared everything. I was very depressed because I’d recently lost my mother.
I was trying to come to terms with the loss and was desperate to move on in life.
In a bid to distract my mind, my friend and I were casually surfing the Internet. She had forcibly created my profile on Shaadi.com and while I found the whole concept extremely funny, I checked the account regularly. One day, I received a request on that account and honestly, that request changed my life.
During those days, I was free as the students were on holiday and there wasn’t much work in the college. I accepted the request and read the guy’s profile. He appeared to be a decent guy who was also from an engineering background.
I was not sure about trusting a guy basis his profile on a matrimonial website but I decided to talk to him just for fun.
We started chatting and after a while, I shared my WhatsApp number with him. I knew that sharing my number was a risk and I still did it. We started talking on the phone and also chatted regularly on WhatsApp. He would always send me formal messages like, “Good Morning” or “How are you?” etc. and nothing more. I was pleased with his decency.
We became friends and soon got attached to each other since we spoke so much and so often. Things were going really well and I was happy because I’d found a good person. Suddenly, he did something completely unexpected.
He blocked me on WhatsApp and stopped calling me too. Initially, I was worried that he was facing some problem but as the days passed, I felt hurt. Why couldn't he tell me if he had a problem or if he just didn’t want to talk to me? Several questions haunted my mind.
Though we were not in a relationship and had never even met each other, I felt heartbroken.
How could someone just walk out of your life? It was very shocking to me. I tried calling him several times on his birthday too but he did not answer my phone even when I tried from an unknown number. I started blaming myself and thought that I’d driven him away. Why else would he go away from my life so abruptly? But I couldn’t do anything about it.
I couldn’t blame him because he had not done anything wrong.
I wanted to forget him but it’s not easy to forget someone when you are so attached to them. I had no option but to forget him. I deleted his number and decided to concentrate on my career and my dream.
After about 2-3 months, I left my job and went to live with my sister for my bank coaching course. I stayed there and studied hard. When the coaching got over, I got a new job in Delhi. I was about to leave for Delhi when I received a message from the guy whom I’d forgotten. I was happy and surprised too! How had he suddenly appeared after six months!
Though I did not want to talk to him, I did because I was in a happy mood.
I told him about my new job and even he was happy for me. Then I frankly asked him why had he disappeared without informing. I wanted to clear everything. He explained his situation and I realized that he was telling the truth. I was so happy to talk to him after such a long time.
At that moment, I didn’t know if it was love or liking or just a habit but I wanted to talk to him.
We started talking like the old days, only this time; he was serious about our relationship. But there was another twist in the tale. My father started forcing me to get married to a boy of his choice. I was not ready for an arranged marriage. I told my guy everything and he was shattered.
For the first time, I felt that he loved me.
He asked me to say no to my dad because he wanted to marry me. I was overjoyed! I realized that I was also in love with him. We told our families about each other and fortunately, they agreed! Today, we are happily married.
I'm so glad that he came back into my life.
Do read my second blog to know more about my life after marriage.