Falling In Love With My Husband Was Like Being Born Again

Anonymous Anonymous in Single Women Bad Women on 22 January, 2018

My life can be divided into two phases. Often I feel as if I am reborn in the same life. I was 17 years old when one of my friends introduced me to one of her good friends.

It was love at first sight for him or at least that was what he always used to tell me. But for me, he was just the friend of my friend.

He would attend all the social gatherings and would try his luck with me. I had completed my schooling and had just started my college life.

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I was not looking for a man in my life.

But both my friend and this guy really persuaded me to become friends with him. I developed a liking for him gradually and after a year or so we started seeing each other. Life was good. We were happy. We had a smooth- sailing relationship for the first two years.

I trusted him blindly and believed that no matter what happened, this guy would never let me down.

We completed our graduation and he went on to do his post-graduation. Things were good between us. One fine day, we were on a date when suddenly a message popped up on his phone saying, "I love you and I miss you!" When I asked him about the message, he said that his friends were playing the fool with him.

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I wanted to believe him but deep down in my heart, I knew something was wrong.

I asked him about it several times. He then told me that he had a girlfriend in his college. He said he was sorry and did not want to leave me.

I was so madly in love with him that I forgave him. And that was the biggest mistake of my life.

After some time, he went abroad to pursue his higher studies.

That was when he started getting feelings of insecurity. He started doubting me. He made my life miserable.
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He did not allow me to talk to any guy. He unfriended all my male friends from my Facebook account. I had to take his permission even when I went out with my family. I had to give him proof that I was with my family or that I was working in my office or that I was going out with my friend.

I allowed him to torture me like this. This was the second mistake I made.

He did a lot of other things to make my life miserable but I do not wish to mention them here. I lost all the love and the respect that I had for him. I could not take any decision because I was scared to do anything.

I was really scared of him.

I craved for love, care and respect from a person who really loved me. But he was controlling my entire life. The only thing that he had no control over was my dreams. I dreamt of having a partner who loved me the way I was. I wanted someone who accepted me with his heart. I wanted the man of my dreams to treat me like a baby and care for me. I did not want him to judge me. I wanted him to trust me. I wanted to be with someone who would be with me in all my good and bad times. I wanted to grow into a stronger and more confident person along with the man of my dreams.

I suffered through 7 years of hell with him. But he finally decided to leave me.
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You can imagine my plight because I did not even have the right to leave that relationship. For a long time, I was unable to digest the fact that I was no longer in a relationship with him.

I could finally breathe freely. I had the freedom to do as I pleased. I could talk to any person of my choice. I could go anywhere without fearing him. I was no longer answerable to anyone. Honestly, I did not feel even the slightest trace of sorrow because that relationship had ended.

It was at this time that I experienced the second phase of my life. People often say that dreams don’t come true. They are absolutely wrong. DREAMS DO COME TRUE.

I dreamt of having a perfect life. I dreamt of a perfect partner with whom I would share the perfect kind of love. And I found one too.
Yes, I found the man of my dreams. Maybe I should say that he was every girl’s dream man. He has made my life beautiful. I feel like I am leading a fairy tale life.

Sometimes, I feel like God has repaid me with joy for all that I suffered when I was with that guy. I feel loved now. He gives me so much freedom that I feel I can fly high now. I have become a better and a more confident person after being with him. It has been more than two years now. I am married to the man of my dreams and time simply flies when I am with him. We both are in a very happy space.

Yes - my ‘happily ever after’ phase started when I met my husband.
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