Abused And Body-Shamed, Only One Thing Could Set Me Free

Anonymous Anonymous in Single Women Bad Women on 9 November, 2017

Being a pampered child of the family, I was always a happy go lucky person. I loved to eat, play and sing.

After I finished schooling, I fell in love with a guy who liked me from the last 3 years but due to school life, I had ignored him. We had graduated from the same Music school. He was seven years elder to me but I still loved him. The first year of our relationship went extremely great. He was possessive about me and somehow I loved it.

It was an amazing feeling to be someone's center of the world, but as the days passed, everything that once pleased me felt annoying later.
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He convinced me to deactivate my Facebook account. It was difficult as I was socially active. He later made me quit wearing western clothes because he thought that I was very busty and fat. I switched to wearing only Salwar Suits. My parents were shocked to see my sudden transformation.

On the days that I couldn't pick up his phone calls, he started accusing me of having affairs with the other boys, which wasn't true.

One day, when I was at work and didn't pick up his call, in anger he showed up at my workplace where I was sitting with my colleagues discussing some important work. He accused me of having an affair with one of my colleagues.

It was the most embarrassing day of my life. I had become so numb with the blames that whenever he blamed me, I said things like "Oh! Don't you know that I sleep with that guy? Didn't you know that you were dating a prostitute?" I was just 17 years old. My parents were proud of me for doing well in my career but I was doomed in my personal life.

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One day, he came to my house and put a knife on my neck for blocking him from everywhere. He threatened me for breaking up with him. I broke up and punched him hard. He got knocked down and fell from the staircase. I still remember that day. I hated myself for being so patient all this while.

It was my insanity that I believed that the relationship could be saved. That same year, I started talking to another friend of mine who really admired me. We were already good friends but didn't know when we had started liking each other. I was young and needed a fresh start so I confessed about my feelings to me.

He was a Mumma's boy and one day, while showing my pictures to his mother, his mother said that I was too fat, dark and ugly. She also said that she would never let him marry a scary girl like me.

He found it so convincing that only after 6 months; he left me saying that he no longer wanted to be with me. She was not wrong. I was fat, short and dark but definitely not ugly and scary. I became so lonely and depressed. I was 20, doing well in my career, had proud parents, stable family but there was nothing stable in my head.

Deep down, I was badly broken and felt demotivated. I decided to work on my body and joined a gym. I remember my second day at the gym when everyone laughed at me.

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I lost 24 kgs through heavy weight lifting. I am a changed girl now. I lift heavier than the boys in my gym and I get compliments for my curvy figure. During my fat loss journey, I met someone who is a famous nutritionist. His diets not just changed my body but also my life because his love is my strength now. I'm 23, fair, I weigh 62 kgs, I’m 5'1 tall and most importantly, I’m happy.

It's been more than a year since I have been in a relationship and I am quite active on Facebook too. I wear anything that I like and I'm in love with myself. I changed myself because someone questioned my ability. I'm in love with myself and my partner and we are going to get married soon.

A few months ago, I got a call from the ex-boyfriend who said, "Hey! My mother saw your pictures and asked me whether I'm still in touch with you. Please come back to me. She likes you now." I replied, "You better marry your own black a** now." I hung up the call.

Editor's Note:

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