Has the patriarchy finally snatched my light?
Has the patriarchy finally snatched my light?
Has the patriarchy finally snatched my light?
This disease is meant to be suffered alone.
To Our Unborn Child, Our deepest desire,
As an editor, I can feel all this.
Yes, there're many women who handle both work and home.
I know men who think a woman is ‘available' if she wears a skirt.
Often we just ignore such things because they are considered ‘normal’.
I saw an old lady jumping with the joy who learnt the birth of his grandson.
She cannot understand my feelings.
My parents have found a perfect guy for me.
I do not want to humiliate my husband.
I was forced to leave my job.
We all materialize our life to make it look attractive.
I am a practical person, and have always been.
I get angry with myself when I think of such things.
The guys I met were vicious.
You can’t understand us just yet.
I’d have to pick.
She will get married too and be someone’s Bhabhi.
We have been married for 23 years now.
I was not allowed to do any of this.
But every day, I get up and sleep with fear.
My parents are utterly selfish.
She tore down my willpower.
Without saying a word, I just got up and moved down.
He had a psychological problem but he never admitted it.
He was getting married to another woman.
I hear words like 'women aren’t fit for research'.
Resume dancing. Avoid Bhangra.
When it's love, nothing else matters.
I was scolded and beaten up severely.
Be the man you'd want your sister to marry.
I will not give up.
Five years have passed and I feel completely lost.
I didn't believe that our relationship could work.
I realized that miracles and true love do exist.
She always did what made him happy.
I proposed to her on my knees.
I know what it feels like to lose a love you did everything to keep.
Now she is getting engaged to someone else.
Start appreciating your life to the fullest.
For them, building the Ram Mandir is dharma.
They cry for their son who left alone in hard times of life.
I was traumatized for a few moments.
All boys try to solve this one big mystery in their childhood days.
Three days later, a Facebook message popped in.
I will never bring up my child like this.
Belittling someone doesn’t make one a feminist.
I am dealing with this all alone.
I was shocked and horrified.
Suddenly all these things seem so very unappealing to us.
He did not try to console my mother or me.
My faith in men has fully been destroyed.
He used to be my favourite Bhaiya.
It’s not just scientific logic, but also Almighty Allah’s gift.
I’m not really interested in lighting up a fire.
Nobody wanted to listen to my problems.
There is no respect for us female doctors.
I never imagined how violent my to-be father-in-law could be.
I know every father wants his children to follow his guidance.
After 7 years, we decided to get married.
I hit rock bottom when this happened.
They want the commitment even before meeting.
I kept waiting for him to discuss our marriage with his parents.
I could not change my natural tendencies.
I quietly watched him take another girl's hand.
What kind of a society do we live in?
Then you say men dominate you.
I would often cry at night.
It was 6 in the morning and I somehow managed to stand up.
The truth is stranger than fiction.
I don't want him to change.
I still get goosebumps.
He wanted nothing to do with it.
The boy liked Mona a lot.
I want to talk to you one last time.
He was a good guy but my fear ruined everything.
I kept quiet for years.
I had only one condition.
I didn’t know who to blame.
It was a typical arranged marriage.
I wanted it to work but fate had a different plan.
They had their own doubts.
Why the hell do we think of society so much?
There can never be an end to a mother’s wishes.
I wouldn't be able to work once I got married.
I wanted to hold her hand and tell her that everything would be fine.
I had to face my fear just like last time.
I smiled and pushed myself to move on in life.
I understood he will always look down upon me.
All I could do was pretend that I everything was normal.
He didn't want me to go away.
“I will always wait for you.”
I have a family of ‘educated illiterates’ and they are not sorry.
He sensed someone walking out of the house with mild footsteps.
My scars are in places where no one would notice.
I am not against you or your thoughts.
I was already 29 years old, and my parents put lots of pressure.
Where do all the actual culprits live?
I believed them and I got pregnant.
Sometimes underdogs are the biggest achievers in life.
Don’t make us dumb human beings.
I went home crying all the way.
I did whatever he asked me to.
He had a reputation for spreading rumours.
I was scared, scared of everything.
He did whatever he wanted to do.
Exactly what makes them think we are available?
My future and eligibility were decided on a phone call of 5 minutes.
I am 30 years old and unmarried.
I realized how much of an ego they had.
He lied to me about his mum.
That day, I could not stop crying.
It is the beauty of a man's heart that makes him generous enough.
You are not capable of helping me to live a dignified life.
I had to clutch at my mouth tightly with my hand so that no one could hear me cry.
She knows she isn’t safe anywhere.
When it comes to paying the bills she considers me as a part of the family.
She was heartbroken and I felt sorry for her.
"Pura hi nikaal ke baith na, puri nangi ghum"
I am really hurt because I really looked up to her.
I was doing whatever he asked me to.
I had become a ‘thing’ that my family members boasted about.
It was quite clear that I was living through a distorted perception of love.
I forgot that girls have a different destiny.
I was a girl who loved adventure.
His only intention was to make me say no to him.
Our horoscopes did not match.
I don’t curse my parents for the way they behave with me.
I wish this suffocation in the name of Indian culture stops.
I want to know the reason why a thief stole, a murderer murdered, and a rapist raped.
I am so sick and tired of this vicious circle.
A car with five boys stopped near me.
Why can’t we have our own lifestyle and live by our own rules?
"Humari izzat ka kya hoga?"
I can no longer tell if we are alive or simply burning.
I wish someone attempts to change.
I felt like the ugliest woman on the earth.
I managed to get in touch with his ex.
I didn't realize that I had no interest in boys till I met this girl.
I want everyone to know how all this happened to me.
My parents left hopelessly from his home.
Their status will go down if I marry him.
Aren't you satisfied with all the dishonour you have brought to our family?
I feel bad for such people.
I am never enough for them.
I have prayed a lot, tried my luck too.
I went near her to show her the baby and the gender.
Ravado was not a person anyone wanted to get tangled with.
It didn’t look good for a Sindhi daughter to marry out of caste.
Do you forget that I’m human?
I had succeeded in fooling the “greatest of the brains”.
He was a good manipulator.
I told my parents about my plans of quitting CA.
I couldn't believe how far I had come.
My parents are under pressure too.
I find this too filmy and absurd.
He was always there for me.
There is no make-up hack in the world that you haven’t tried.
"I want you to have unprotected sex with me."
He asked me if I had been physically involved.
I respect your decision but you need to respect mine too.
I can never be happy.
I was surprised but I accepted.
I told my husband that I can't keep the baby.
I wish I had the courage to talk.
“Your mother-in-law won’t put up with your tantrums like I do.”
"Did you find someone to marry?”
Make them strong enough to survive in the evil world.
What's done can't be undone.
I was scared that I was too late.
But this is a lesson and I will learn it.
None of us is Mother Teresa.
I felt her pain and her constant embarrassment.
My so-called 'educated and liberal' husband did nothing to defend me.
It’s not her fault that you have a big ego.
What are these families thinking when they make such false promises?
People say that harassment is not a problem for virtuous women.
I am fed up with his behaviour.
There are thousands of girls in our country like me.
It’s the most perfect life any girl could ask for.
God does not tolerate disrespect to another soul.
I am trying to be optimistic.
I personally am amused by such thinking of parents.
I wish I could help them.
This sacrifice is for a better life.
You are her only friend there.
I thought maybe this is nature.
Who among my friends would ruin my life?
What does her husband do when she is tortured by his parents?
They threw him out.
“Travel karungi toh pati ke saath hi karungi.”
Men can be feminists too.
I wake up in the morning to find my tea along with breakfast ready.
I am a Dalit girl.
I’m just compromising with life.
I was wearing full-hand shrugs and a scarf.
No one can understand what I went through.
I am the one with the geeky glasses.
Something was slowly changing.
My world has come crashing down.
I have done nothing wrong.
Womanhood is not a taboo.
Being hidden is similar to being dead.
All the uncles sit together, and all the aunties sit together.
Where is this heaven where marriages are made in?
I am just a person with a broken heart.
I deserve my happiness.
She didn’t know what to say.
It was a long-lost name for most of us.
How did this happen?
Twenty years passed by in search of joy.
He takes care of me, loves my dark complexion.
I saw things for myself.
He wanted me to keep the baby.
I will not forgive them for what they are doing to me.
I was unworthy.
Why do women treat their own children this way?
He had just used me for sex and money.
She is the same age as me.
He would touch our breasts and always tell us to stay still.
It’s hard to picture the man who was your own superhero as the villain of your life story.
“What if this happens to my daughter?”
He followed me to my house.
She always wanted a girl from a rich Punjabi family.
I told him that I would never blame him for doing this.
I begged him to stop.
I was so afraid that he would slide his fingers deeper.
They would demand to see their gifts.
“Am I allowed to do this?”
They openly taunted us for getting married.
His hand extended and was reaching for her chest!
We were creating a small world.
How can someone be forced into a marriage?
Do I fear for myself? Yes.
If karma doesn’t make her feel my pain then I will.
“The society that we live in will not accept our relationship.”
I’m trying to spare your feelings, while you rain down on mine.
I screamed that day.
It’s not their desire to fall.
The whole world goes silent around you.
True love comes into our lives only once.
You don't deserve my reaction, you deserve shame.
Who said girls don’t “birdwatch”, right?
They told me to write a formal letter.
She is a Brahmin and I am a Kshatriya.
I ain't changing for anyone.
Would any guy still be interested in me after knowing my age?
You are sitting here “innocently” narrating stories of love marriages gone sore.
He said I was his favourite sister and I was disgusted.
I will carry to my grave, the guilt of marrying this guy.
Your lust has cost me more than you could ever imagine.
Your offering is no John Abraham per say.
I felt very special but guilty, too.
They would make fun of me, taunt me.
We don't hate men.
Separation isn’t easy.
I got pregnant again.
Maybe, happiness is not for everyone.
He is trying to prove that I have psychological issues.
It almost feels like she’s their maid or an outcast.
Why is it so difficult to behave?
Parents only get loneliness and abuse.
Trust me, it is one of the most amazing things you can ever do.
I earn more than him.
I don’t think your PERFECT son needs an IMPERFECT bride like me.
I am immortalizing this pain.
They want me to shift to the USA.
His house, my house, his car, anywhere.
She was scared of me. I could see it in her eyes.
I knew her dad very well.
I cried all night and before going to school the next day.
We are sacrificing our love for our family and getting nothing in return.
The uncles and aunts have started giving suggestions to her.
I was called to the police station and he came along with me.
I just wanted someone to listen to me.
My brain wanted to say no but my heart just wouldn’t listen.
I just stood there and blushed.
I know you got this from your dad.
I feel as if I forced them to give birth to me.
"How to die a painless death"
If you always wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, why did you study so much?
My parents have always thought of me as “the son of my family”.
I tried to change him but he wouldn't budge.
I could feel those hands.
I don’t know if this is worth it.
For a few days, my mom and wife got along fabulously.
He told them that I was “characterless”.
She brings sorrows wherever she goes.
When I refused, she slapped me hard.
I caught him red-handed.
I was never taught such things.
Who the hell do you think you are?
I thought of being his friend.
Your “Ghar ka Chiraag” has gone astray
He is not my ‘Pati Parmeshwar’.
A part of me died right there.
Our love story was exactly like a movie.
My husband even demanded my salary.
I confronted both of them together.
They were aware of the mess that my previous relationship had created.
I am scared of leaving him.
She was too small, too scared.
I took this as an opportunity and kicked him between his legs.
I can’t find a song that praises a girl’s beautiful mind.
I received a call from my love's mother that he tried to commit suicide.
Only the husband treats the girl as his own.
Don't wait for others to teach your child.
“Don’t give it Bahu."
Even in those fights, I felt his love for me.
He is trying to change and I can see it.
I rushed and asked everyone to make some space for her.
I don’t know why people are unable to see the sacrifices that she made for me.
My daughter can never be a part of their life because she is a girl.
I looked forward to meeting him now.
"Act like someone who wants this job badly."
Texts, which never got answered.
Deep inside, I want to revolt.
I wanted to leave everything and go back to my family.
I asked him to stop the car and got down.
I am dying to talk to them.
Now, I look outside for love.
Then began my college life.
I waited for three months.
I know that he was the guy that I chose.
But one day, something unexpected happened.
They are almost like sheep in wolf's clothing.
I had been a receptor of Stockholm syndrome.
I puked several times.
I was born to adjust and I have to, no matter what!
Marriage is nothing but a social obligation.
Society's mentality is the biggest problem.
I delivered a baby girl.
Let me be fair though.
There is nothing more demeaning to a woman than that.
In each other's arms, we grew stronger.
Now I am a happy independent woman.
He still haunts me.
“Bhagwaan ka diya sab kuch hai humare paaas!”
She has an opinion about everything.
I feel like a bird who is too broken to fly.
We are looked down upon.
And that’s when I stopped in my tracks.
He called me after one week.
There was a trip planned for later.
The attention is flattering.
I never imagined myself writing this.
I used to wake up early.
I’ve thought about it, quite a lot in fact.
The day was special, full of excitement.
I was reluctant.
I can't tell him about my feelings.
But after few days, I had another proposal.
“Do lock your door tight.”
My husband was sexting.
My biggest nightmare came true.
I couldn't take it anymore.
His negativity would astound me.
I was in utter confusion.
I hate the concept of lavish weddings.
I only had five sets of clothes.
I feel so sorry for myself that I fell for such a dire cheater.
I remember those days.
I loved a boy and got married to him.
Yes, the age of getting married.
My son is very attached to his father.
I became desperate and stupid.
I ignored everything.
However, I was never given that importance.
It’s not something to be ashamed of.
He never made me feel lonely.
I could not ask her any further.
"I’m just worried about you.”
I didn’t force him to marry me.
This is what I got in return.
Where is the justice in this world?
I am a changed person now.
Being a mother is a blessing.
I couldn't see her face as she wore a burkha.
Keep one thing in mind.
Finally, I got married to this guy.
I am a dreamer.
Still he said he will talk to his dad.
My business was in tatters.
My father feels proud.
He made me feel like a woman.
But as they say, success is the sweetest revenge.
Now I'm just living like a robot.
She doesn’t want to stop the marriage.
The next day was no better.
We got married on 15th February, 2014.
But my cousin shamelessly spread the news.
The situation has worsened over time.
I never wanted to get married but he changed my heart.
He told me about his one sided love story.
That was our last meeting.
It was a progressive kind of love.
I had a new role to fulfill.
Now they are getting me married.
Then came the time when I had to get married.
She conceived after completing her graduation.
So he needs a woman in his life.
Before getting married, I was working in a different city.
My mom has been married for 25 years.
Despite watching me in so much pain, my husband couldn't step up for me.
I was left all alone with my husband and father in-law.
For us, there is no tomorrow.
We’ve all heard this story from our childhood.
His behavior made me conscious.
I am sorry but I cannot be a slave to their whims.
“My darling is talking about divorce?”
I was scared to hope for any kind of future.
I was planning to step out of this marriage.
This happened with me too.
Now I have been married for one year.
In her late twenties, an Indian girl doesn't look for a boyfriend anymore.
Our society is known to overlook such digressions in the name of love.
But I never felt a thing, because I was in love.
But they didn’t know that my father is a hero.
My father is an insane man.
It took us five long years to convince just my parents.
I can’t be a robot.
I know that they may get hurt.
They praise me in public.
My story began 7 years ago.
I was in the same situation when I was 26.
I couldn't move my head.
Now, I'm 4 months pregnant.
My mother started hitting her head and crying out of helplessness.
But the society doesn't leave the girl alone, ever.
Every mother-in-law was once a daughter in-law.
I don't like this house.
The one I could share my life with.
I was being too vulnerable to think like that.
But there was a change in the plan.
They are often converted into transactions.
I was forbidden from going out.
"I can see Goddess Lakshmi’s midriff. She should wear her sari properly."
I wasn't allowed to sit with my husband in front of them.
The in-laws' abode was worse than boarding schools.
My in-laws were furious that we had returned.
He would come home just to eat and do as he pleased.
This has been going on for 8 years.
I have a story to tell.
Somewhere, someone smiled.
Today, I am strong and independent.
The normal thing for any child to do is to accept his gender and his sexuality.
I stayed with my parents for a few months.
I can only hope that things change.
They were false promises.
Today I feel stronger.
Pari was now a married woman.
I will be getting divorced soon.
I didn't know what I was getting into.
He doesn’t want to change.
I feel like a piece of paper.
I am a 24 year working woman.
I wish you had tried harder.
I was left with no option but to compromise.
Now I'm 32 and single.
If only my parents had trusted me earlier.
Then the day arrived.
Since our childhood, there are several people who are instrumental in shaping us as a person. One of the most important roles, in this aspect, is of parents and our teachers.
Now I just want her to be happy.
I want to say that we fell apart because of our fights.
He was hesitant at first.
I live a life that leads to equality.
It's not a want.
My friend didn’t think much of this.
For them, I was a character-less girl.
Life was getting better.
I told my coach about everything.
I started hurting myself.
Ours was a love marriage.
He was everything a girl would want.
I just was losing hope.
That day, the actual meaning of being a girl in this society dawned upon me.
I was sent to India on a condition.
Maybe things will never change.
His mother and aunt grabbed me.
In a soft voice, the mother replied.
They somehow always held a grudge against me.
I personally do believe in the institution of marriage.
Today I am being blamed.
Yes, he has to play both these roles.
I’m a 29-year-old “upper-caste” Marathi girl.
This was his reply.
I was quite surprised to hear this.
I also thought I will wait and watch.
Initially he was very interested in talking to me.
I live with this vacuum in my heart.
I knew she had those desires too.
Again I had a guy who I thought, will be the saviour in my life.
I might be a word for him, but he is my entire dictionary.
I don't know how to love you or your parents.
This is the story of one empty plot.
The house never needed a daughter-in-law, it needed a slave.
Unfortunately, such innocence doesn’t last for too long.
I dialed my best friend's number but it was switched off.
My dad had worked really hard to give us a healthy upbringing.
I dated him for 8 years before I married him.
But I have also seen ruthlessly demanding wives.
But, she stopped me.
For all we know, we are probably not meant to be.
I wanted him as my prized possession.
I hope I can leave him.
And for the first time, the grass was greener on my side.
Riya felt broken from inside.
I agreed to marry him.
I still remember her words.
All his friends taunted him for doing “time pass” but his love for me was pure.
For me love is all about compromises.
To the world we are living like husband and wife.
I asked her to meet him just once but she did not agree.
It's their choice to make.
I was about to get up, but...
So now begins the drama.
“Sleep with him anyway."
And then, there are other kinds of men too.
She asked me to go back to bed and rest.
I am not only deprived of family.
I’ll never be able to forget that day.
Until a moment ago, I thought I was marrying a man who loved me.
But he couldn’t take it, so one day he came to kill me and take my child away.
I couldn’t think for a while, I didn’t know what to do.
At the tender of 24, I was forced into marriage.
She always seemed lost.
My so-called ‘friends’ watched.
After I reached Bangalore, the nightmare did not end.
It was my first birthday after marriage and I was very excited.
I know I made a mistake when I told him the truth.
He is also not your ideal son anymore, suddenly.
But then his parents asked for a call log.
Back then, he was 6 and I was 19.
He had no money and now I was the maid of his house at the age of 19.
I saw myself caught in the same dilemma.
Life was difficult, my mother-in-law used to scold me for silly reasons.
My brother tried to hit me.
A month after the engagement, my marriage was fixed.
I only had a little strength left in me.
I didn’t let him speak more.
That process is called marriage.
I want to be independent.
I built up the courage to talk to him.
I assumed he was just being mindful.
What I also knew was that I could not do this alone.
I get everything that a husband can give.
Everything seemed to be fine until that day.
“Now, if you don't mind, could you please stand up, I would like to take your picture for my family to see," he said.
I would look at my feet while talking to people, so that they didn't notice my eyes.
When I got married, I wanted only one thing.
My life has just begun!
I have one life and I don't see compromise as an option. Is that wrong?
Now can you be that girl?
I kept fighting for my wife's love life but she had different plans for me.
For the first time I had so many questions in my mind.
I am not being narrow-minded. Please hear me out.
It still gives me the jitters thinking what if I hadn't made that call.
I'm a single mother and I still believe that my Prince Charming will show up one day.
That I used my husband as a stepping stone.
My case is still on in the court.
A month later she realised I live too far.
The drama started only after the wedding.
Gurmehar Kaur and Alankrita Shrivastava are bad, bad women.
In that moment, you're forced to question yourself.
I was mentally prepared for such a life.
It’s a concept called 'paternity uncertainty theory'.
Try living at your wife’s house for a year with her family.
I am suffering from depression now and still hoping for the best.
They demanded for gold.
Listen. I love being crazy.
My relatives started advising my mother to "knock some sense" into me.
While putting a full stop to her heart-wrenching letter, she sighed.
"Why did I marry you if you can't do all these things?"
She said, "His face says how good he is." I was shocked.
The silence seemed to kill me.
He had a fair complexion, I didn't.
Am I happy? I don't know.
My parents, my brother killed a big part of me that day.
One day he tried to push a beer bottle in me.
I had not slept the previous night due to tension.
Mine was a love marriage. We were in a relationship for seven years before we decided to tie the knot.
While my elder sister was sent to America to pursue her MBA...
All that is left for you then is to have the power to make them bend to your will.
I'm Sarika and this is my story.
What should I do? Please help me.
He took just one day to decide that...
For nine months, I kept praying to God to bless me with a son.
And it's just me PMS-ing, right?
Today, my mother is no more.
You give some when you have a daughter and you get some otherwise.
A typical Indian girl's life is measured by age — finish school between 21-24, marry and make babies between 23-29 and “grow” the family for the next two decades and...
I am the most fortunate woman in this world.
She slapped his head and welcomed him back to reality.
I want to be naked...
My fault? I was an obedient wife.
The moment I became a physical separate being. They gave me an identity.
What happened underneath was 'our little secret'.
“You didn’t have the brains for that,” he’d tell her.
If you want to call me immoral, you need to give me a valid reason for that.
He took me to his servant quarter especially.
May be he's looking for me but his parents are not!
I don't wish to get married again for many reasons.
I have been married twice and divorced once, so what?
Allow me to refresh your memory.
And more importantly, share it!
Imagine this scene in a Cinema Hall and just as the Anthem begins, the guy in front of you stands up.
Why try to fix something that isn’t broken?
So this is how I grew up to be an insecure girl and sister.
Perhaps, it's the all-too human fear of being alone, being anonymous.
My mom-in-law would tell him in front of me to slap me if I replied rudely to him.
The next generations gave these fictional governors of nature a name… GOD.
They tell her that her monthly cycles will start soon. She will be a woman.
"It will be ugly if some rickshaw puller teases you," he smiled wryly.
And here starts my: 'No, OUR love story.'
We confronted those men who were very blatantly staring at women and they were unapologetic about it.
I don’t want you to go to your mother’s house after marriage, unless I give you express permission.
We didn't get intimate on our wedding night because he wanted me to remain a virgin for sometime.
It was one small dialogue in a movie that made me pour out my heart.
12 hours and some minutes later, I just want to say I can't take this anymore.
Marriages, I was told, are made in heaven.
I can't think of one person who can replace my wife in this job ever.
“It’s okay, Abhi. I have washed the blood off my hand. Don’t worry. I won’t mess up the wall.”
I don't know any better way of telling them what I feel.
Who am I? I'm fairer of the two siblings.
And this is how it all happened.