We Are In A Unique Relationship: We Love Each Other But We Won’t Get Married

Mona Kumar Mona Kumar in Life Is Tough on 24 July, 2017

It was a boring day at office when I was heavily loaded with work. I usually don't bother about the people around me but on that very day I saw him sitting close to the entrance door. My heart pumped a little faster than usual. "Who is he?" I asked myself. I was sure that he is not a localite and had come from our office in NCR.

Days passed and I used to see him every day in office and realized that it was not merely attraction but something else. Yes he was transferred from NCR. I got to know.

As a girl it was difficult for me to approach him even on a friendly note because he belonged to a department where I didn't know anyone. One day when he was passing by, my colleague noticed him. I then searched for him on Facebook and visited his profile every day. My roommate was surprised when I told her about him. She coaxed me to send a friend request. I ended up sending a request from her profile. He accepted immediately. She messaged him saying that one of her friends wanted to become his friend. A week passed and everyday she asked me if had sent the request and my answer was ‘No.’

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One day he didn't come to office and I was missing him. This gave me the courage to send him a request and I sent it. It got accepted within seconds. Obviously I started the conversation.

Me: Hi
Him: Hello
Me: How are you?
Him: I’m fine.
Me: Ok
Me: Well it's good to ask "how are you?" in return. 
Him: It's not good to say just "ok" to end the conversation.

I was blushing by the end of the conversation. We exchanged numbers after a few conversations and started chatting. It really was a nice feeling and the more I got to know him, the more I was falling in love with him.

I tried my best to convey my feelings but failed. He knew it all from my talks but didn't respond. A month passed and I was deeply in love with him and I knew he also liked me. We confessed our feelings for each other and I started blushing more often.

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I had found the entire world in him. It was like a dream come true. I don't know when he fell for me but he gave me all the happiness that I wished for. He loved me for the way I was. He was no less than an angel who took me to a different world. I started smiling more often. Everyone pointed out the glow on my face and yes only I knew that it was because of him.

No one in the office knew that we were together. It was our secret and was kept as a mutual decision.

6 lovely months passed and our relationship grew stronger. We thought of involving our parents in this matter. I told my father about him and he wanted to match our horoscopes. It didn't match online.

My boyfriend told his mother and the outcome was not positive as well. We both belonged to different castes and the “Horoscope factor" created trouble. I knew that there was no point in convincing my parents if his mother is not happy with me. He told me that He didn't want to lose me but his mother is his top priority.

One day I was going through a mood swing and we had our first serious fight. We both cried and didn't sleep that night. The next morning I apologised.

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I respected his mother and we decided to marry the people our parent chose for us. I wanted to stay in touch with him until he got married to someone else. We share a unique relationship in which no one is at fault but still can't spend a lifetime.

One day he told me about switching his job as he had a better opportunity to work near his hometown. I was very happy for him and his family. I knew that someday this would happen. We loved each other irrespective of all these happenings in our lives.

We have planned to go to Vaishno Devi as one last spiritual trip of ours. I wish him all the best for his future challenges. I will always be by his side, no matter what it takes. We are the best couple in this unique relationship. I am lucky to have him. Distance will never be an obstacle between us.