To My Ex-Boyfriend, Thank You For Telling Me That Friendship Is Better Than Love

Anonymous Anonymous in Life Is Tough on 29 July, 2017

Having studied in an all girls school and college, the first time I interacted with guys was during my post graduation. I was very excited about finally getting a chance to study in a co-ed institution and as luck would have it, I got into a relationship in the very first month of college.

Belonging to a financially sound family in Delhi, I had always imagined that my boyfriend too would be a Delhiite. However, destiny doesn't always work according to our plans and I ended up falling for a guy who was from a small town. And that was the beginning of my fairy tale love story.

From bunking classes to hanging out on weekends, to going for long walks and pouring our hearts out, that one year of college was the time of my life. We both knew deep inside that we were very different and belonged to completely opposite backgrounds, but that didn't stop us from planning our future together. Our friends knew that we were poles apart but never discouraged our love.

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When college ended, I was devastated. While I got a job in Delhi, my boyfriend got a job in a different part of India. That was the beginning of our long-distance relationship. Though it seemed tragic at first, he would come to Delhi every month to meet me which made it easier to cope with.

But being in a long-distance relationship also made us think about our future. After all, for a relationship, only love is enough, but when it comes to marriage, there are a lot of factors that are important. Simply being in love isn't enough. After a lot of discussion and tears, we ended our relationship of 1.5 years. However, we decided to remain good friends since breaking up was a mutual decision.

This post is a thank you note. Thank you for showing me what love means. Thank you for loving me even when we weren't certain about our future. Thank you for not giving up on our friendship. Thank you for still coming to meet me and for not letting me get caught up in our past memories. Thank you for knocking sense into me whenever I get nostalgic. Thank you for telling me that friendship is better than love. Thank you for consoling me when I cry because I miss the old days. I know we would have not been able to adjust as a married couple, but I am grateful that I have a friend for life.

As Ernest Hemingway said, "To be able to say: I loved this person, we had a hell of a nice time together, it's over but in a way it will never be over and I do know that I for sure loved this person, to be able to say that and mean it, that's rare, señor. That's rare and valuable."

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