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My Boyfriend Is A Nice Person But He Is Aggressively Pushing Me For Marriage And I Am Stuck

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I'm a 22 year old woman from the asian part of the world.

I came across a certain website today which led me to this email. I'm not sure if I will receive a response but I'm doing everything in my power to seek advice and help.

I'm currently in my second relationship. My current boyfriend is a good person. He is one of the nicest guys I have met. Though he is all that, there is also a part of him which scares me.

I'm an independent woman who likes new challenges and I am also very obsessed with my career.  Some of his rules leave me unsatisfied and I feel trapped at times. He has access to my Facebook, Instagram, Whatsapp plus every other social media app. Also he has access to all my emails as well and I had to create this one recently because I do not want his attention on this matter.

We have had fights and arguments and he also found out that I have been flirting and talking to several men. He wanted me to be honest with him and tell him everything I have done with men and also he wanted to know how many men I have been associating and talking to. If in case I refuse to tell him because I do not want my past to be dragged into the future, he would call me a whore. It has happened quite a few times.

He uses his ways to get in touch with all the conversations I have had with men and says shameless things to me. Also, if he finds me following a guy on Instagram or talking to one he would immediately interfere and ask me to remove and block them.

I'm not saying I am right, but when I asked him to free me from this relationship since I am suffocating because of his rules and what not he threatened to ruin me and my family. He said he will marry me whether i like it or not. It took me a year to realize what he actually is and I am certain that I am not the woman for him.

I do not want anything bad to happen to him but I don't want him to ruin my reputation either. He suspects me of having unnecessary affairs with my colleagues as well. I just want this to be over so we can go our separate ways peacefully. 


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