I Was Not Only In An Abusive Relationship, He Shamelessly Cheated On Me Too

Anonymous Anonymous in Life Is Tough on 6 April, 2020

It all started two and a half years ago when I was in my second year of engineering. I had it all, from having my college friends with me to enjoy a decent life.

Nevertheless, I had recently broken up with my boyfriend back then and was experiencing the new single life and that's when I started talking to this guy who belonged to the same friend circle as mine but we weren't great friends. We frequently met and went for movies and that's when we started to get to know each other.

He was the kind of guy who would do all sorts of mischief and somehow, get a smile on everyone's face and that's what made me like him.
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We then messaged each other and we used to talk till late night, and one fine day, we both knew there was something between us which was beyond the word definition of friendship. After some time we also realized that we had feelings for each other and we could talk it through so decided to date.

Everything seemed perfect and I couldn't have asked for more. I was happy. We met almost every day and we hung out more with each other than ever. We even went for a few trips that only made our bond stronger.

Things went smoothly for a year but after a year, everything went down the hill. He started to get over-possessive and insecure about everything and he wouldn't even let me meet other guys. He then asked for my social media passwords too and would constantly check my phone. I did not react much to that stuff, but things kept getting worse and he was getting aggressive and violent by the day.

We used to have arguments on a daily basis and he made me feel worthless. Eventually, he would cross-question me if any guy texted me and he'd ask me to stop talking to him. I did everything to make him believe that he was the only one in my life but even that did not satisfy him, and later on, he would mistreat me and insult me every now and then and somehow blame me for everything.

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I always tried to hold on to our relationship but nothing seemed to be working anymore and things got worse with every passing day, and I finally asked him to end the relationship.

But then, he started blackmailing me. He asked me to pay a ransom amount in a very short span threatening me that he'd do something bad.

I felt so helpless at that point and somehow I used to let go of everything, considering we both loved each other. He harassed me every time I asked him for a breakup and said mean things to me.

I did hope he would improve one day and things would get back to normal like the way they were but it never did and he continued to do all sorts of bad things to me and even after putting up with all of this, I found out that he had been cheating on me with a friend of his.

That's when I lost it and I couldn't take any more of his nonsense and broke up with him. I blocked him from everywhere and since then I've been focusing on myself and trying to heal from my past.

It wasn't easy to get out of an abusive relationship but when you do, it feels like the best decision in the world. 
Editor's Note:

Yes, it's not easy to come out of an abusive relationship. In fact, many times we don't even realize we're in one. It takes courage to share such a story and it's also the most cathartic thing to do - to write a story that's occupying your mind space. Write it out and move on, make a new beautiful story of yourself.

Just know, we're always listening to your stories - the good, the bad, the ugly.