I Am Happily Married But I Can't Get Rid Of These Dreams About My Ex

Anonymous Anonymous in Life Is Tough on 2 April, 2018

Yet again, I woke up startled, from my dream. My name is Ashita. I’m married and mother to a 1-year old beautiful boy. Mine was an arranged marriage. But somehow, my husband and I feel that ours is a love marriage.

Our parents just introduced us to each other and then left the decision completely to us. We met, talked on calls, understood each other, took our time and then said yes. My marriage life is blissful.

The only thing that bothers me is my dreams. I haven’t shared this with my husband yet, I thought it would hurt him. I was in a relationship with a guy from my office. When he left me for another girl, I was deeply hurt. I took a two-year break before getting married. I was so much in love with him. He was perfect, one year younger to me, he loved to dance and play games and drive bikes and loved my hand-made food.

Anyway, one day he broke up with me over a phone call, and we had a year-long fight after that. I finally let it go and got married.

I’m not in touch with him or any of his friends. I have blocked him from everywhere. And I blocked his current girlfriend too. But their pictures keep showing up due to some mutual friends we have. I ignore them. I recently got to know that he got married to his girlfriend. It didn’t make any difference to me. The only thing that bothers me is my recurring dreams. After breaking up with him, I have been dreaming about him. These dreams are not portraying that we are still in love or something like that. I just see routine days, but I see him and his girlfriend (now wife). I see them even today.

These dreams come very often, about 2 times a week. Usually, I wake up startled. Then I forget about it and continue with my day. My day is busy juggling my work, handling my baby boy, and doing household chores. My husband does help me a lot too. And then at the end of the day, I’m so tired that I sleep like a log. Yet, I get these dreams time and again. I’m so confused, what to do? And I’m the kind of person who remembers dreams after waking up. Most of the days, I brush the thoughts and get busy in my day. Today, somehow it occurred to me that I should find a solution to this. I’m so lost. Please suggest me what I should be doing about this problem.

I’m not sure if I get these dreams because I was deeply hurt and haven’t healed fully.
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