A Letter To My Ex Boyfriend: I Need These Answers Now

Anonymous Anonymous in Life Is Tough on 1 June, 2017

Hi, 

It's been years since we last chatted. That’s quite contrary to what you always said when we were dating, by the way. You said, if or when we were ever to break up, you're the kind of person who'd like to stay in touch with me. I asked, why? You said, well..because we have known each other for a long time. 3 years of dating, yes.. that's a long time.

You said, "We have become the best of friends through this period of our relationship and I'd like to maintain that friendship."
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Well.. I now realise that, that behavior of yours was for show. Like a lot of your 'principles'. You pretended and maintained yourself as the best of the kind of boyfriends anyone could ever have asked for. You were passionate in your love for me and did sweet nothings to bring a smile to my face.

But, that's not all. When I think back, I know you were nothing but manipulative, emotionally immature, self centered and quite selfish. You emotionally manipulated me while giving me an ultimatum about our relationship so that I would have sex with you.

I, as a person, being young and not so mature myself, gave in. All because I was in love. I thought you were the one. I thought you'd stick with me through thick and thin. 

We knew that my parents were opposed to the idea of us and did not approve of our relationship. But, you would make me believe that you'd stand with me and we'd fight the world for us. When it did come to that, however, you backed out.

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You preferred your career over mine. You wanted to hold me back. You held my decision to go abroad for higher studies against me for months. You gave me an ultimatum to choose between my career and our relationship. All this when we still knew our parents did not approve of us.

How is this consistent with your portrayal of a nice and a sweet boyfriend?

Wait for my next letter.

Until then... I hate you for walking away!