I'm Sure The Setbacks Will Pass. All I Have To Do Is To Hold On To My Husband's Love.

Anonymous Anonymous in Your Story on 1 June, 2018

We’ve been married for almost 2 years now and I can’t really think of the right adjective to describe my married life. Ours was an arranged marriage. We married each other willingly.

In fact, our parents did not even bother to meet one another while we were getting to know each other. Simply put – there was no drama during this phase of our lives. We were given complete liberty to do as we pleased.
A week after we got married I got to know that my husband was flirting with the lady next door.
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Her husband was away and she lived alone with her kids. I found a few chats on his Facebook page so I checked his phone. I went through his call log and got all the proof that I wanted. When I confronted him he told me that her kid had blood cancer. He said he was a certified first aid provider and knew people who would help her.

This pacified me a little so I dropped the matter.

A month later I caught him deleting the WhatsApp messages that he got from her. We were on our honeymoon at this time.

I did not want to spoil my mood so I shrugged off the matter and decided not to think too much about it.
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I came across other instances when I sensed something was wrong. I kept confronting him but he kept denying things. I realized that I was pregnant after a few months. One night I was just browsing through his phone at random when I came across some of their pictures. All hell broke loose on that day.

It was 3 a.m. but I woke him up and shouted at him. I slapped him and all he could do was to ask me where I got those pictures from.
He kept apologizing for the next few days but I didn’t budge from my stance.

I busied myself with a function at my in-law’s house. I regretted the fact that I was pregnant. I wondered why I was not able to leave him.

Eventually, I accepted his apology though I was not totally convinced about his loyalty. Maybe I loved him enough to forgive him.
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It’s been a year and a half now. He has been really very good to me and has lived up to the promise that he made to me.

However, my story does not end here. Life had other problems in store for us. My husband had resigned from his job because his bosses were always pressurizing him. He did not get another job after that for almost a year. I had delivered a baby girl. Our house was being renovated so we couldn't move out of our in-laws' place. We had used up all our savings. He was doing his best to make his business profitable but it was not working out. His parents started bugging us now. They indirectly asked us to move out as we had become a burden on them.

There were days when both of us literally sat down and cried about the situation we were in currently. We wondered about our future. We did not know how we would take care of our daughter.

My husband wanted to send my baby and me to my parents’ house. But I could not think of leaving him. I knew I could not lead a comfortable life without him. Things started looking up a bit when he got a job. But they have not paid him for over 3 months now.

I don't know how to run the house now. We have a one-year-old child and a dog to take care of too.

We had taken a loan from a bank to meet our expenses. Now a person from the bank comes and sits in our house throughout the day because they want to recover their money.

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But we don’t have anything to give them. We decided to sell a lot of our jewellery and did so with a very heavy heart.

My husband promised to get back all my jewellery as soon as possible.

I get tears in my eyes when I see the desperation in his pleading eyes.

I can't work because I have no one to take care of my child. I don't want to put her in a daycare centre because I am concerned about her safety.

We are in deep trouble now. We have all the amenities to run a house but no money to maintain them. We have a little over Rs.3000/- left with us.

My father understands our situation and wants to help us. But I can’t take money from him because he has already done more than enough for me and that too when he could not really afford to do so. My husband doesn’t want to ask his father for money because he knows his father will keep talking about it all through his life. He already feels his son is a burden on him.

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We are currently facing a lot of setbacks in our lives but now we are very attached to each other emotionally. We are positive that things will change for us soon. My husband helps me keep my sanity even in these insane times.

I have started looking out for a job and a few people are ready to take care of my daughter. I want nothing but the best for my daughter. I just want my husband to lead a dignified life.

Author's Note:

I just wanted to tell everyone this: Hold on to the people who love you even when you go through such setbacks in your life. Even if nothing is going your way in life now – you will get a lot of satisfaction when you have a person who loves you with you.

Editor's Note:

Do share this story because this young woman has the ability to make her marriage work even under the toughest of circumstances. Nobody likes crises. But we get to see the true nature of a person only during a crisis. Strangely enough, we also realize how deeply we love a person only when we face such setbacks. Time changes many things in our lives but the lessons/insights that we learn along the way change our perspectives on life itself.