I Met A Girl For Arranged Marriage And She Wanted To Marry Me For A Reason I'll Never Forget

Raaghav Gaur Raaghav Gaur in Your Story on 21 March, 2017

We all are well acquainted with Indian arranged marriage scenario. The 'matrimonial hunt' that ensued when my parents started seeking a 'suitable bride', brought both enlightenment and laughter to my life.

In 2015 my family met a girl's family. After a series of meetings and interviews (which were as good as an interrogation), I finally met the girl. Her discomfort was obvious to my eyes. For breaking the cold and silent discomfort, I started a conversation about how powerful and successful girls are these days. I hoped for some light in her but unfortunately, this conversation made her sink even more.

After minutes of awkward silence I said, "hmmm I realise you are not ready for this alliance" and apologised for anything that may have sounded wrong. I told her that she had nothing to worry about. I said I'll make some lame excuse and break this arrangement and she will be left unscarred.

I got up and started to walk away and then suddenly a soft sob was followed by "I want to marry you." I stopped, turned around and asked why?

She: I want freedom!
Me: And how do you think getting in a bond would set you free?
She: Because I am getting married for the sake of my parents!
Me: Can I help you? Are you being forced or subjugated?
She: No.
Me: Then what do you want freedom from? Please understand I can only help you if I know the root of the problem.

She: I get everything that a husband can give from my childhood friend. She was also my classmate, my college mate and we have been together ever since.

The reality took seconds to sink in and I realised that she wants to get married for hiding behind the shield of being a wife. She was a lesbian and obviously, at some point of time, her family got a whiff of it and were hurrying her into a wed lock.

We live in a society where marriage and having kids are seen as the ultimate life solution. A society where being backward is called 'cultural' and being intolerant towards emotions of others is called 'care'.
Author's Note:

P.S: My meetings with various families and girls only made me realise that single life is the best life. 

Editor's Note:

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