Dear Ex Girlfriend, Thank You For Teaching Me How Not To Believe In Love Anymore

Anonymous Anonymous in Your Story on 18 July, 2018

We met at a dance class. She was 3 years older than me and a physiotherapist by profession. I didn't have any feelings for her in the beginning as she was elder to me.

One fine day, she decided to follow me on Instagram. I followed her back and saw that she was in a relationship with a guy. That's why I didn't take much interest. After a month or 2, she had a breakup. She called me up crying and I tried to console her. That's when I started developing feelings for her. But I was afraid to confess with the fear of losing her completely.

Days passed by and we became more close. She was pretty amazing. We used to chat regularly and eventually, she started flirting with me. This gave me some courage and I finally told her that I loved her.

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She got so happy that she instantly replied saying, “What took you so long to say that?”

That's how our relationship started. She was the sweetest and always made sure that I pampered her. We used to meet every day. I would pick her up from the clinic and then went for the classes together.

On 31st December, we were at her friend's place having good times together. The next day, her phone was busy continuously. I thought she might be talking to her mother so didn't disturb her. But soon enough, she started distancing herself from me.

I don't know why but I decided to keep quiet because I didn't want to lose her.
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These continued for days and then she started to completely ignore my calls and messages. I was so furious but I tried to act all matured by directly confronting her instead of fighting first. We met and she told me that she wouldn't be able to continue this relationship owing to some family issues. I was heartbroken and angry at the same time.

 Even then, I stayed calm and told her that I would help her with anything.

I asked her not to leave me. She wasn't convinced. I felt so dejected and so I let her go. After the meeting was over, I went to my friend's place and had a few drinks which I never had in my life before. My friends were too supportive during my bad times. They helped me get out of that phase.

While I was getting comfortable with my single life, I got a call from her at around 10 pm on a random day. She asked me to meet her urgently. She sounded in trouble so I agreed. As soon as she saw me, she came running towards me and hugged me. She was crying continuously.

She said, “I can't live without you. I tried but I can't.”
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I asked her if she was sure this time. To which she replied yes and asked for a week’s time. I was again surprised by it but I said okay. Within this time, she had blocked me from everywhere including Facebook, Instagram, and WhatsApp. I could only connect with her on call.

I started having my doubts, after all, this wasn't the first time she was ignoring me. So I asked for my friend's opinion and he suggested following her on Instagram using the fake account just to see what she was up to. I did and what I saw was completely shocking.

She had put up pictures with her ex-boyfriend and they had also gone on a trip together.

I got so angry that I started crying. I didn't know what else to do. After a week, I confronted her with all the proofs. She started making all sort of excuses that she was doing this to make another friend jealous. I loved her so I decided to believe her. But to assure myself more, I asked her if I could talk to her ex-boyfriend. She became defensive. She started saying things like “You don't believe me. How can you even say that?”

I told her to bring me proof.  If she was right, she would have nothing to worry about and saying that I left. She still hasn't come back with any proof. And my trust in love is completely gone.

I don't think I will ever be able to trust anybody anymore. She destroyed my trust, not just once but twice. I have lost faith in life.

Editor's Note:

 Don't break anyone's trust, if you can't build one. Share this story if you think the same.